Welcome to the Europe and Middle East Region of Sexaholics Anonymous

You may have tried other sex recovery fellowships but not yet found the answer to your sex addiction problem. Sexaholics Anonymous has a strong definition of sobriety, which works for us. We have found a solution and have become free of lust, one day at a time.

We don’t claim this way is for everybody, but if you want to stop lusting and become sexually sober, we'd like to share our solution with you.

In Sexaholics Anonymous, we define sobriety as "no sex other than with spouse and progressive victory over lust". For us the term “spouse” means one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman. So, for the unmarried lust addict, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us in Sexaholics Anonymous, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.

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Sharing our experience, strength and hope

Below SA members share their personal experiences in lust recovery. None of us speak for SA. The principles of Sexaholics Anonymous are found in our 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Please take what you like and leave the rest.

What lust did for me

I once heard an AA speaker say, “Alcohol could never have done so much TO me if it didn’t do so much FOR me.”  A light went on when I heard that, because it’s certainly true for me and my lust. When I honestly look at what lust used to do for me, it makes a powerful argument for going back to it.

Fear Squad

Along the sidelines of my mind, for most of my life, there have been a bevy of pom-pom waving fearleaders.  They're very non-triggering fearleaders, draped in black and drab.  They lead jeers and cheerless cheers to dispirit the home team - me.

I think it started in college:

I no longer had the power of choice

In my disease, I eventually "hit bottom". I discovered "pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization." I reached that mostly because I had fully realized through experience that I was truly powerless over lust and that, at the same time, I was losing my faith that God was there or was loving. I could not save myself and God either couldn't (because He wasn't there) or wouldn't (because He wasn't loving). I was in a state of hopelessness. It was exactly where I needed to be.

Expiration Date

There’s no feeling in the world like Lust.  It’s like being hit by lightning, blended into a milkshake, and fired from a cannon.  It makes me feel alive by making me feel like it’s killing me.  It resembles bungee jumping, roller coasters, shooting guns, the hottest buffalo wings on the menu: it’s an extreme sport.

This Higher Power demanded my total commitment

Once, when I was involved in the corporate world, I imagined that I could "beat" this obsession on my own, "with the "help" of the programme".

As I struggled, I explored many other therapies and programmes other than Sexaholics Anonymous. I had money and I reasoned that "more is better", because in my corporate life that principle worked.

Why we call ourselves sexaholics

We members of Sexaholics Anonymous call ourselves sexaholics because we know our problem is much bigger than sex, just as problem drinkers call themselves alcoholics because they know their problem is much bigger than alcohol. For us, sex/alcohol is but a symptom of a much graver underlying disease: addiction to lust. 


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